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What to Wear to a Funeral

Dressing appropriately for a funeral or memorial service is one of the simplest ways to show respect for the family and the tradition. What "appropriate" means varies more than people often realise.

In Western Christian tradition, black has been the default mourning colour for centuries. In Hindu and many Buddhist traditions, white is worn. In some East Asian traditions, white headbands or sashes signal a particular family relationship to the deceased. A Sikh service expects a head covering for everyone, regardless of faith.

These guides explain what is expected of guests in each tradition: which colours to wear, which to avoid, what modesty looks like, and whether head coverings are required. They cover the typical cases, particular families may have specific wishes, so a quick check with the family or organiser before the day is always worthwhile.

When in doubt, dark, modest, plain clothing is rarely wrong. The most important thing is your presence, clothing is secondary.

Guides by faith and tradition

Each tradition approaches grief differently. These gentle guides help you find the right words.

Christianity

Dark, modest clothing is standard. Black, navy, or charcoal — variations between denominations are minor.

Islam

Modest, covered clothing. Avoid bright colours and revealing cuts; head covering for women if attending the prayer.

Hinduism

White is the traditional colour of mourning. Avoid red, black, and elaborate dress.

Buddhism

Generally white or dark, plain clothing depending on tradition. Modesty is the constant.

Sikhism

Modest, dark clothes; head covering for both men and women at the Gurdwara.

Judaism

Dark, modest clothing. Men cover their heads (kippah provided). Plain, dignified dress is the constant.

Chinese Traditional

White, black, or muted tones. Specific items (white headbands) may signify family relation to the deceased.

Taoism

White or plain mourning robes; family wear specific colours to mark their relation.

Confucianism

Plain, dark mourning attire; close family may wear traditional hempen mourning robes.

Shinto

Dark, modest formal wear. Avoid red and bright accessories.

Jainism

Simple, modest white clothing.

Bahá'í Faith

Modest, dignified dress — no required colour or style.

Jehovah's Witnesses

Conservative business-style clothing; modesty is emphasised.

Spiritism

Light or white clothing is preferred; black is avoided in some Spiritist circles.

Zoroastrianism

Plain, modest dress; white is common for some communities.

Ravidassia

Modest, plain clothing; head covering at the Gurdwara.

Tenrikyo

Black, dark, or muted formal attire as for a Japanese funeral.

Wicca

Black or dark robes; some covens use white or natural tones.

Neopaganism

Varies widely — follow the family's lead.

Rastafarianism

White, red, gold, and green may all feature; modesty and respect take priority.

Scientology

Conservative business-style dress.

Non-Religious / Secular

There is no required dress code — many families request casual or favourite-colour attire.

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Last reviewed June 2026.

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